There are many myths surrounding the idea of adoption. In order to make the best decision for you and your child you need to know the truth behind the myth.
Myth: If I loved my child, I would never consider adoption
Mothers who explore all of their options and those who make adoption plans have the courage to put their child’s needs first and to consider what plan best meets their needs.
Myth: No one could love my child like I can
Good parenting is a matter of unconditional love, acceptance, and the consistent nurturing that puts the child’s needs first. Adoptive parents love their children as much as if they had given birth to them.
Myth: People will think I am not taking responsibility for my actions
You may think that choosing to parent is the responsible thing to do or the consequence for your unplanned pregnancy. If you’re not sure that you are ready to parent, finding out what your options are and considering an adoption plan is being a responsible parent.
Myth: People think I should just move on and forget about my child
You will not forget the child you placed for adoption and you wouldn’t want to. Your experience with your child is part of who you are, whether you have ongoing contact with the child or not.
Myth: I will never know how my child is doing or that I made a good decision
If you choose adoption, you may think that you’ll never know how your child is or that you made the best decision that you could at that time in your life. Today’s adoption offers a range of openness options so that you and the family you select build the type of relationship that you want.
Myth: I’ll never get over the pain of giving up my child
You may be frightened by the prospect of the intense sadness that comes with placing a child for adoption. The loss and grief cannot be denied. The reality is that adoption is full of both loss and possibility. You will never forget your child, but with time and knowing that your child is growing and thriving, your heart will heal.
Myth: Adopted kids have more emotional problems than kids who aren’t adopted
Perhaps you have heard that adopted children have serious problems with drugs, alcohol, personal relationships, and mental illness – beliefs that are not supported by research. Adopted children may have additional issues related to identity to work through but, like other children, most of them handle adolescence successfully, without serious problems.
Myth: A child doesn’t really need a father
Studies show that children benefit from having positive, nurturing parents who can provide both positive male and female role models. Relationships, self-esteem, and achievement can all be positively affected when a child is able to grow up in a loving home where both parents contribute to the child’s development.